woke up feeling pretty good today, as long as i keep talking to myself and giving self reasureance i know that i will continue this upward trend. sure there will be downs but I am excited to see how many ups i have coming my way?
woke up feeling pretty good today, as long as i keep talking to myself and giving self reasureance i know that i will continue this upward trend. sure there will be downs but I am excited to see how many ups i have coming my way?
As long as you make good decisions and treat yourself well you will have many more ups coming up ahead of you.
Part of treating yourself well is not allowing "friends" to take advantage of you, and that includes a wife or husband. It is OK to help a friend, but one who consistently hurts and betrays you and does things hurtful to you, is that a friend anymore?
I love it thank you so much! I am gonna use that a lot in the coming months.
Today is the day The Butterfly gets set free. Wish me luck and the strength to stay neutral, compassionate, strong in my convictions and solid as a rock in my values. I am saddened but excited for this new chapter and what life has in store for me. All i know is NEVER say NEVER. But it is time to chose my road and start my journey.
So is there a suggestion to the time length of this conversation. The one thing i do not want to do is once i have said what i want and let her go, i do not want to give the idea or impression that i am flip flopping. Or should i just say what i want to say and nicely end the conversation.
The latter. If you hover, it looks like you're hanging around for a response, and that what you just said was merely a TACTIC. If you end it and leave not LOOKING for any response, it conveys more that this is how you feel REGARDLESS of if or how she reacts.
Ok that is what i was thinking, so if she still wants to talk after what i have to say what then just kindly tell her "w what i have said is all i came to say, I do not feel continuing this conversation will provide any progress." how does that sound
Ok that is what i was thinking, so if she still wants to talk after what i have to say what then just kindly tell her "w what i have said is all i came to say, I do not feel continuing this conversation will provide any progress." how does that sound
It sounds wordy & unnecessary. Say what you want, then get up to leave,
with a polite "see ya later" gesture. Then go.
IF IF & ONLY IF - SHE wants to tell you something, then you politely listen.
Hear her.
Chances are, you will feel Either 1) hurt/offended OR 2) confused/hopeful -
but for either/both of those circumstances, just say you "need time to process that" and then get moving.
If I had to predict, I'd expect her to say something short & simple, perhaps angry, and that you will only digest much later.
If VERY pressed to say more OR if you feel the need to defend yourself - KEEP IT SHORT. You can always say "If I had it all to do over again, there are lots of things I'd do differently",
but don't apologize for anything other than what you truly feel YOU did wrong. Remember that you CANNOT control how she views you. Even if you could control it, it could change in a day or month or year... This is about you letting her go. (IF need be, maybe just say that.)
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