W continuing A with OM from AA meetings

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I think the longer you wait to take action with your boundaries the harder it will be. The eventual backlash grows the longer you wait. When I discovered my W's EA I cut all communications and demanded transparency which I was able to monitor without her knowledge. I demanded NC with anyone who helped her with her EA (a brother and a "friend"). I laid out my boundaries and enforced them on day one and had very little backlash. Setting the tone when the WS is in the "caught" mode is the best timing for setting and enforcing boundaries. I think if I introduced them and enforced them later on there would have been tons of backlash.