Did speak with lawyer and lawyer did warn me I would be on the hook for 50% of any debt she creates but that it would further help me validate how she was extremely poor with money in a custody dispute. I of course want to save my marriage and this division of finances seems completely opposite to me which is why it must be the right move The concept of if I do not fight for me, she will think I am a pushover is a valid one I need to remember a lot right now. I was/am the housewife in the marriage even though I am the man. I have done all the cooking (I love to cook) I did all the cleaning until I gave it up etc. and now it is time to divide money.
My brain thinks I am getting further and further away from marriage but...sometimes DBing feels extremely opposite to me and frankly everything I did do got me nowhere so..... yah.
Deep breaths. Hating watching her leave everyday. D6 got in trouble at school again and it kills me to know how clingy D6 has become to me because I am right short of all she has but if we divorce, it is not like that is going to get any better.
I looked awesome yesterday, dressing nicer, taking good care of myself. 12 days smoke free now...GALing more even when at home. Have a friend coming over Friday evening knowing that W is gone for the night...just because I will be at home with D6 asleep, doesn't mean I cannot enjoy company with a guy friend.
Me:39 W:33 Married 6/07 D6 Found out about affair 9/14
The concept of if I do not fight for me, she will think I am a pushover is a valid one I need to remember a lot right now. I was/am the housewife in the marriage even though I am the man. I have done all the cooking (I love to cook) I did all the cleaning until I gave it up etc. and now it is time to divide money. 