My H told me that fidelity was the single most important thing to him. He told me that if I was ever unfaithful, he could not live with that and our M would be over straight away. He was always proud that he had been faithful in his previous M, even though it had become unhappy.

I would have thought him the last person to cheat......but he cheated. And when I asked him about all of the above, he shrugged and said "well I guess I lowered my principles.."

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus