Hi Jer, I think they believe they want us to date others as a way of letting themselves off the hook, as you surmised. The reality is that if it happens or is even likely they can be very jealous and possessive. It is OK for them but not necessarily OK for us!
Bingo. Beatrice hits it out of the park.
You know how we say everyone here is unique but everything is the same? I think most of us have had our spouses try and get us to see other people or at least be open to it. As if us doing so would either:
A - make it ok that they were. B - make it so you would focus your attention on someone besides them...oh look a bird! Right over there! You know a distraction. Its sort of like their idea that being friends after everything was an option.
W - I can still see us being friend, you know like how we used to be. Me - Oh, that super sweet, its almost precious how naive you are.
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