Need some advice please

[Swabby]

While the snooping is not recommended by most, i couldn't keep moving on without knowing first about my wifes EA. This knowledge helped me draw clear lines, especially lately. I will agree with Barry though, my M is also in a state of upheaval, so take everything i say with a grain of salt.

I found writing my daily thoughts in a journal helps immensely, sounds corny, but each day its getting more and more cathartic to write down how the day went, my feelings, interactions, etc. It's helping give clarity to the situation.

As for the EA, i don't want to be a downer, but it sounds very similar to my situation, and unfortunately you know your relationship and your wife better than anyone, so your gut is likely correct. Its a horrible feeling, believe me i know, but from my experience, its better to find out and deal with it vs. the not knowing, which just ate me up (your imagination will always beat reality).

Its rather easy to get into your phone records if she's blocked you out online. If you have her last 4 social numbers, you can call in and get them to send/fax you a copy of the phone/text logs for x-months. If not that, just push for getting access to the account online. Thats my opinion though...