My story

[sandi2]

I hope your health is still progressing. This stress could not be the best medicine for it.

As long as you can feel the tension coming off her body by just sitting next to her, I would not get my hopes of seeing the desired change for quite a while. However, she will be up & down and all around until it could blow you away.

This may seem terribly negative, but these things she tells you really don't mean what you want to read into it. I could just as easy read something differently. Let me give you an example, since I can read WAW code... sometimes.

Let's talk about a family vacation this spring =I want to continue being included in family events, after the D.

Let's talk about selling our house and buying a new one =. I really need the money for my new life, after the D.

I love you so much =. I will always care, even after the D.

However, I will quickly add that neither of us really know what was in her heart when she said these things. As a WAW, she is confusabate tween what she wants and what is best. She will be back & forth with it. She is strictly operating out of her feelings.......which have gone bonkers, btw. If she has another guy in her head, she will be much....much worse than just a woman who wants out of the M for other reasons.

Read as much as you can on the WAW in an A.

She is not the same girl you M.

Read the links Cadet gave you b/c

Good news is your M can be saved. Mine was, and I was a WAW, too. It will be a long road and will get harder, but it can be saved.

You will need to read around on some threads here. You will discover how your W is following a typical pattern. She will even say things that other WAW'S say, as if they are reading the same script. It is eerie.

Hope you post often, and I hope I have not discouraged you. Most of the population here are spouses who are/were left behind. Some of us (ahem) old timers, have stuck around a long time after our own M was saved. Just paying forward what the board did for us.