Complex #5 - progress and throwbacks

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It's truly interesting how I got to the point where I am right now, talking about the finances and responsibility part. Because I think this is one of the biggest factors in my sitch which was overseen for a long time.
This combined with the ambition my W has by nature (btw she makes like 90k as a nurse, if she goes back to school to become a NP, it almost doubles..to me this is wealth^^) I see the big imbalance in our relationship. This was not meant to last forever. Education, job and career are very much out of balance indeed.
So it's all no wonder. And she told me her worries. Many times.
I didn't hear her. I felt safe and settled.

Thanks Susana, toots and 25yr for providing a women's perspective. It's almost eye opening. On the other hand I tried very hard to compensate. I'm a very helpful man, I took care of most of the household and took care of some additional income. I'd be a great father. I thought that'd be enough. She loved it too. I cooked for her, I did almost everything..a women's dream of a man at home I was.....but I couldn't keep up with her ambitions.

I was always independent btw. Never got much money from my parents. Here tho I committed to building up a business with not a lot of income right now, but also a lot of potential to make a lot of money within the next few years. My W agreed on this that I should take that chance. Few months later she dropped the bomb on me and thej she was wondering why I'm not really progressing in the job. Iwas devastated.
So there's two sides to the whole thing but I don't wanna defend myself too much. I KNOW I could've done more to improve my situatiom.

Now I am where I am. And I'm still kind of new to this country. Back in school. I'm doing hourly payd office work for the company now too and drive for Uber on the weekends where I can make 2-400$ on a weekend extra on the side. All new things I've done. But of course it'll take time for W to see. And to reach a better income level I either have to drop the commitment to work for the conpany I'm woth right now, or be patient, finish school...etc


The talk tonight I'll read the validation thread right away. I'll open a new thread now. This only has a couple posts left

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