She has been tested for hormones and has a slight imbalance. High Estrogen and almost no Progesterone among other imbalances with thyroid. She is having trouble with her hair, skin, and has developed a mysterious acid reflux that no doctor can find. She has admitted in counseling that everything is foggy and has been for a while. I not sure about all this.....very lost and confused while trying to deal with my own grief from the affair.
I want to share something personal with you. I have serious hormone imbalance problems. I have to go, at least once a month, to a hormone balancing specialist. You would not believe the amount of meds I have to take, and extremely expensive. I have so many things wrong with me till I can't even remember them all. I am doing much better than I was this time eight yrs ago. I was seeing specialist, etc., and at one time I was on 4 different types of AD's at once. Can you believe it? No wonder I was messed up! I could barely function, and had a very high stressed job, on top of all that mess. Then other things started happening and everything just intensified in my life. I felt so dead and empty that I wondered if i was alive at times.
The point I wanted to make, by telling you all of that about myself, is that I still had free will. My body was messed up, I was deeply depressed, I was stressed to the gills, but I knew right from wrong! I was as honest as they come, but then I cheated on the man who loved me the most. Was I in a fog? Oh yes, indeed! And although I can sympathsize with your W's hormone imbalance, I am here to tell you that she cannot use it as her excuse.
It would be easy to blame those choices on mental/emotional issues, or other health problems. However, I see that as taking the easy way out..........for me, anyway. So, I just wanted to tell you that b/c those issues do affect us a great deal, but as long as we are in our right mind, we still make choices to do what we do. I cannot say I didn't know what I was doing. I knew.......and i knew it was wrong.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
I am doing much better than I was this time eight yrs ago. I was seeing specialist, etc., and at one time I was on 4 different types of AD's at once. Can you believe it? No wonder I was messed up! I could barely function, and had a very high stressed job, on top of all that mess. Then other things started happening and everything just intensified in my life. I felt so dead and empty that I wondered if i was alive at times. 