I swear hearing from her stresses me out. She knows how to push my buttons and now has me thinking I should have been kinder in my response to her. I do care, I who worry about her and the surgery, I do wish I could comfort her....but at the same time I know I cannot be there emotionally for her or i will feel I am enabling her relationship with OM and being her friend which I cannot be unless she drops OM and wants to talk about us.

Am I wrong here? Why do I now feel so guilty?

M: 44 W: 45
Married 26
Together 28
D: 22, S: 18, S: 9, D: 7
S: 12/2013, seperate houses
OM revealed first 10/2013, stopped seeing him
OM revealed 1/2015, been going on for quite some time