I'm bad at the quote thing but re dating vs marriage, it may help to think of your sitch as fluid, it's not one or the other right now in terms of comparison. You're still officially fired
I'd guess dating bc until he says he wants in the R, that's the comparable stage to look back upon for what worked then in terms if re-attraction. Some days you'll have a very M vibe I'd guess, and if you're going with the flow, you'll respond in kind, in the as-if, easy does it sense.
So good to hear you doing well!
Mid 30's Psych-abusive M with violent tantrums from XH D 9/15; NC forever on