Affair Over but Stuck

[Hurt06]

To be honest it seems like I am the only one interested in working hard to repair the marriage and establish a new connection? Is this normal?

It is if she's still chemically (brain endorphines) influenced by her OM. That could be either that she's still in contact with him and lying to you about it, or it could be because she really did end it and she's going thru withdrawal. Without solid intel, it's hard to tell the difference.


Starsky

I was thinking the same thing on withdrawal. She has screamed in detail( salt and pepper hair, Smile, etc) at me all the things she doesn't like about me and then later says that the never said those horrible things. I wish I had a video camera.


She has been tested for hormones and has a slight imbalance. High Estrogen and almost no Progesterone among other imbalances with thyroid. She is having trouble with her hair, skin, and has developed a mysterious acid reflux that no doctor can find. She has admitted in counseling that everything is foggy and has been for a while. I not sure about all this.....very lost and confused while trying to deal with my own grief from the affair.