To be honest it seems like I am the only one interested in working hard to repair the marriage and establish a new connection? Is this normal?
It is if she's still chemically (brain endorphines) influenced by her OM. That could be either that she's still in contact with him and lying to you about it, or it could be because she really did end it and she's going thru withdrawal. Without solid intel, it's hard to tell the difference.
