In the talk I can only think of two things I'd like to say/do:

1. Take full responsibility for not being responsible enough in our M, for settling and being lazy, not working hard enough towards our future, for not listening to her concerns and worries and dreams not understanding her enough. (Maybe the financial part is enough and I can skip the rest bc I told her that too many times)

2. Tell her I'm ready to let her go.


Any suggestions on how to word it properly? I don't wanna blame, sound desparate etc. just straight forward ..and mostly listen to what she has to say.

I'm sure tho she will want to figure out things about S. Which I haven't fully thought of. Right now I'm just making sure I'll make enough money to survive soon. I thought the rest is on her. But eventually we have to work this out together. I don't want this and want to buy time but I don't want her to feel like she has to parent me. That will not help my cause...
Thanks

Last edited by Complex; 02/25/15 06:03 PM.

Me 32 (German) Wife 28
T 3yrs M 2yrs
Moved to US for W
No kids
BD 6/2014
In house separation
Confirmed EA 1/2015
(ongoing since BD)
OM not ready
Real D talk started 1/27/15