Hi Hurt 06, welcome to the forum, and sorry you're here - but you'll find it's a great place with lots of very wise and supportive folk.
First things first - buy and read the books - DB and DR. I found DR the most helpful. It's more up to date and has a chapter devoted to infidelity. You may also want ot have a look at the affairs and infidelity section of the forum.
Observations with your w - well, she's certainly checked out of your M at the moment isn't she? Either the A is ongoing and your W is continuing to lie about this. Or, it has ended, but she may be 'grieving' the loss of it and unable to show any enthusiasm for either the M or you.
Either way, she hasn't had this all important - I want to recommit to our M and will do whatever it takes - moment.
Hilarious that he's a divorce attourney - oh dear! He should know better than that. Is he also M?
You'll be on moderation to start with, but keep posting and things will speed up for you. Normally Cadet will come along with some reading material to get you started. Just to warn you, the DB/DR approach is counter intuitive - and it can take a little while to really 'get' the concept. But stick with it and it may well save your M. And even if it doesn't, you'll feel much happier within yourself - and that's worth having!
Take Care, Toots :-)
Last edited by Toots; 02/25/1505:51 PM.
T 13 M 7 Me 48 H 46 SS 15 BD 7.14 PA D final 5.16 (H filed)
We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus
