Wife left me three weeks ago!

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I've just come back from picking the kids up and seeing my wife. She started out very hostile with me. I think wearing a suit and completely changing from pleading and moping took her by surprise...but in the wrong way. She was adamant I have an agenda and thought it was that I wanted to go through the courts to sort out custody of our children. I told her that was not the case but she didn't believe me. The conversation went on and she was so annoyed with me and demanded honesty that in the end I said I had been reading about people going through what we are and that sometimes things work out, I broke down momentarily and said how I felt, that I still love and didn't want any if this. Maybe that was the wrong thing to do but it certainly did ease the tension. She said we are separated...like I didn't know...and she said that I was free to see other people if I wanted to. I said I didn't want to. The way she said it thigh wasn't very convincing. It appeared like she would be deeply bothered if I saw.someone else. I asked if she wanted to see anyone else and she said, no, she hates all men. In the end she requested that we be nicer tobeach other forbthe sake.of the kids. I have to say I have tried being nothing but nice, mayve not instigating conversations but not being rude etc. She had picked up on this attitude and thought that I was over her already.

We have arranged to go out with our children for tea tomorrow evening. We have been out a few times with the kids in the last few weeks but each time I was still in the begging and pleading phase. Just last saturday we went to the cinema and I spent most of the time crying in the seat next to her. That won't happen tomorrow. I plan to be strong and have a nice friendly time with the kids and her. I hope through reconnecting over time through family events such as this thY we can reconcile. I can see it taking weeks rather than months but i am in this for the long haul. Does anyone have any advice on what to do and not do at our meeting tomorrow? Obviously the children will be present. I hope this is a turning point as surely being nice with each other as a family will start to heal things.

I've written this from my mobile so apologies for typos etc.