She texted again to remind me that Friday was her brothers bday and also the day she was having surgery to remove a skin cancer on her nose. I was very aware of both of these and had already planned on sending her brother bday wishes as well as was contemplating sending her a message to wish her well on her surgery...was debating that last one but truth is I knew when her surgery was and have always offered her support and encouragement and still feel a tempered down message would be appropriate although the 180 would be for me to say nothing at all.
I guess it's a fine line between appearing to not wanting her to think I'm a channel for her emotional support and me coming off as very cold since I know she is having surgery and is nervous about it.
Advice on whether I should send her well wishes Friday and if I should agree to meet with her for coffee this weekend? My instincts (which may be way off) tell me a quick non emotional message Friday is fine but if I'm not prepared to talk D with her i should not agree to meet for coffee....thoughts?
The old me wants very much to see her and fantasizes that she will enjoy seeing me, think I look handsome (after all I have trimmed up my beard and look pretty damn good), and start questioning her choices she's made.
The realist tells myself to STFU and stop dreaming about what is not mine to control...decisions decisions...
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M: 44 W: 45 Married 26 Together 28 D: 22, S: 18, S: 9, D: 7 S: 12/2013, seperate houses OM revealed first 10/2013, stopped seeing him OM revealed 1/2015, been going on for quite some time
