Cadet - I think something has shifted, but I am not sure if it isn't me! I am finally very detached from the drama.
I was somewhat detached for years, but he could still get to me. In the last few months I let got totally.
I honestly do not really care if he goes back into the tunnel, sues me, or plays nice. OK, slight preference for nice, but not at all sure where I would ever want to go with that.
Zero expectations
And yes, long periods with no contact, and occasional bursts of contact, but never for as long as this. And it always ended with him spewing and getting angry, and me feeling bad.
