Mary, I posted this in response to you on my thread. I thought I'd copy it here to make sure you saw it:
Originally Posted By: Card29
No apologies necessary. Everyone walks their own path, but so many paths here are amazingly similar.
Do not give up hope if that's what your heart desires! That is not foolish. But follow the advice uRworthy once gave me:
Originally Posted By: uRworthy
You can have hope. Nothing wrong with that. You can have it. You just dont want to live in it, ya know?
That phrase really resonated with me. I hope it helps you.
Also, don't follow my lead with the chasing, begging and pleading...I was a habitual pursuer! I don't know how many it helped or hurt my sitch, but it definitely harmed me. It just held me back somewhat. Of course, I would have needed several months to process this loss even if I had followed the DB script to a t. But that didn't help. Don't be discouraged by failures, though. You're not going to blow your chances for reconciliation with a few DB slip-ups
I'm so sorry that our first holiday season as a mother was like that. There is not much I can promise you with your sitch. But here is one thing I feel confident saying, if you can stick with the ideas here: Your 2015 holiday season will be much better, as far as your sitch and your emotions regarding it.
How have your last 24 hours been?
Me 38, WAW 30 D11 (former marriage) S2 T 8 years M 3 years BD 8/20/23 S 8/20/23
