This can't be the end! #2

[Barry]

Hi Theoden

I must have missed this post (I started a new thread with a change of mindset) but funnily enough, I've actioned or come to terms with almost all of your 2x4's above. The only one I can't think about is number 5 (suprisingly enough).

I don't talk to the kids about W unless they want to, and even then I don't ask anything that would put them in any sort of position.
Me asking them to live with me was more about letting them know that I WANT to live with them but due to my decision to let W live at home, that wasn't possible at the moment.
I understand your position on me moving out, it mirrors many other peoples views too. Ultimatly, I went with what I thought was best and stand by my decision.

I still have all the emotions of course, but they are only shown to a couple of close friends (who W doesn't know) and on this forum. I've really turned a corner in the last two weeks.

The pursuit, begging, crying, pleading and spying has stopped entirely. I'm only concentrating on myself and my kids.

It's not that I disagree with No.5, in fact it's because I know it to be true that I can't think about it. Whilst it isn't the case that she is with an OM (albeit that I know of), I have a miniscule amount of hope that we can work things out. W is not thinking about R at all and she may never do. It's early days though and maybe she just needs time to walk her path. If I'm honest, I can't even say right now that it WOULD be a deal breaker (apart from the part where I pay for her love nest) - that's how unsure I am about it.
I guess when it happens, I'll know.

I like No.7 - I've changed my path, but whether or not my M can recover is yet to be seen. W is on a different path at the moment. Maybe we will R, maybe we wont but I'll be stronger no matter what the outcome.

Barry.