Complex #5 - progress and throwbacks

[sandi2]

But then she reminded me of getting my greencard stuff done. I still have 1.5 month to turn it in. She just wants to get this done she said wheh I asked why or if there's a rush?

This has been a sore spot for her. And you have admitted to low motivation. I hate paperwork too, but why not do a 180 here? Just get it done! Doesn't it make sense that it would relieve a little pressure and she wouldn't have to play like your mother trying to get you to do this......again?

Let me explain. We women want to give emotional support to our loved ones, especially our H. There is a line between supporting and mothering. If she has to act like a mother b/c you are behaving like a little boy.........that just kills any hope of attraction right there!

My H has low motivation, too. To me, he never seemed to have much self discipline and took no initiative in most things. He was a "nice guy" who turned very passive after we M. Me? Of course, I was the totally opposite. I promise you, he almost drove me to point of insanity waiting for him to make a decision.....or to just make a movement so I'll know he's still breathing! He really isn't quite that bad, but close. He simply doesn't have the drive or see the use in doing some things. His answer is, "It will be there tomorrow". Can you understand how this could be seen as laziness? After all this time together, I happen to know he is not lazy, but his way is certainly challenging for me. And to be honest, it has hindered the attraction department.

You are young and healthy. Start making these changes while you can.