That is why it is recommended not to discuss things other than (as here: strangely open but anonymously) and with IC, L and a couple of close support friends. Firstly they will support you and secondly it makes the way back harder.
But I confess I have broken this rule when H has done so and told his side to mutual friends, painting V as the wicked old ugly fat witch with the big warts and bad cackle.
If I have to discuss, then I stick to the undisputed facts and my feelings about it. Recently when H disputed to a friend that he said some particular thing, I played the MP3 of it and I told H I was doing so. I sent him a copy of the MP3. H told an advisor that last year I had left him for 7 weeks, another lie, I sent a copy of my diary and timesheet with locations showing this was not true. We need Intel, and to keep evidence to hold to account. Otherwise it is hear say, on the he said she said spectrum. I am glad Ikept the texts and MP3 recordings.
This is hard so please Lisa, be careful with your heart.
V
Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
