Moving On - LisaB

[Barry]

Hi Lisa

I just wanted to say hi and wish you luck in your sitch really.

You'd think I'd be happy that our meeting went well but instead it left me feeling a bit sad and worried. I have done well telling myself I am better without him, I have taken charge of myself and my life on my own. But having a pleasant time with him made me a bit sad for what we have lost and made me see him as human instead of just the evil guy who stomped on my heart.

I can totally relate to this. As much as I miss my WAW, I've also done the same thing in taking charge of my life etc. I did see W briefly yesterday morning at a meeting at my S13's school. Even though I only saw her for around 15 minutes (and it was in no way a chance for us to meet or talk), she was then in my mind for hours after.

I guess it's all part of the transition. One minute we think of our WAS's with resentment and hurt over what they've done to our R's, but that can turn to compassion and understanding of why they did it and even to thoughts of if this is even the right thing for both us and our families. I continue to flip from one to the other right now even though ultimatley, it's not in my control anyway!

I read NMMNG recently (credit to Mozza for recommending it), and it's an eye opener. I've never looked at my life like that before and it really helped me to make some changes to my attitude. I recommend it to all.

Sending you lots of luck Lisa.

Barry.