25yr ..whatever you say, it always makes a LOT of sense, not only for the sitch of the person you post it in, but it's also a reminder for everyone else's sitch.
Thank you. You helped me in my sitch earlier on, if you have a few minutes of appreciate your honest opinion on where my own state of mind is right now.

You continuously point out one single thing, that EVERYONE has the most struggle with. Detaching and letting go! I think it's by far the most difficult thing in ones sitch and takes the longest.

Rysin, I feel with you. Duly letting go is a very long and hard process. The thing is the earlier we get this done...truly done, the higher our chances for success. The slim chances of saving our M increase and most importantly that we will be fine/better no matter what!!
I'm slooooowly detavhing more and more, but I feel like a snail. At least it's continuous. And don't underestimate GAL activities in the process of detaching. It's crucial!


Me 32 (German) Wife 28
T 3yrs M 2yrs
Moved to US for W
No kids
BD 6/2014
In house separation
Confirmed EA 1/2015
(ongoing since BD)
OM not ready
Real D talk started 1/27/15