So I am divorced.

[mahhhty]

Last night, she did something nice for me. I called to say goodnight to the kids, but did so very late. About 35 minutes after their bedtime. She picked up the phone and I relied to her that I just lost track of time. She said no problem and that she believed they were still awake. So I got to say goodnight to them. After I said goodnight, she was trying to coax my daughter to tell me something that she had been saying throughout the day.Then STBX stated that "D4 says she has the best Daddy in the whole world." Then D4 said "I sure do, best Daddy in the whole wide world." She was so happy, it just melted my heart. I started to tear up afterwards.

I realize it is a small thing, but she didn't have to bring it up. I appreciate that she did, and texted her thank you. I see she is trying to reinforce my relationship with the kids, which I also appreciate and am trying to do for her as well.

The topic of being a good father has always struck a soft spot with me. The only time I can clearly remember STBX saying I was a good father was one of the nights we were have R talks. I don't remember hearing it from her in the previous 4 years of being a Dad. My neediness, withdrawal and pursuit were fueled in a way by the rejection I felt as her best friend, husband, partner and as a father, as seen by her. I wasn't comfortable with me, my life and/or decisions and therefore needed her approval/validation.... anyway rant over. time for bed.