Card29 X - Let It Be

[Card29]

Thanks for the kind thoughts, Mary. I absolutely hated hearing this early on, but it really is a good thing that this is happening now rather than 5-10 years from now, for D2's sake. She adjusted to the S almost immediately. Sometimes she misses the missing parent, but never too badly. Of course, it's only been 8 months. But one of the many benefits of DBing is that it puts your coparenting relationship in the best possible position, at least from what the LBS can control. It helps give our young children the best child rearing atmosphere possible for them.

But if you're like me, you really don't have the stomach to think about that kind of stuff. This is the first time I've seen your username (I've been lighter on DB.com lately). Reading through a bit of your story, I'm assuming you meant to type 2/2015 for your S date. I'm really sorry for the pain you must be going through, even this very second. When my S was that fresh, my waves of pain came hour by hour, if not minute by minute. Keep following the voices on this board, Mary. I PROMISE you that you will get better and better. It will be 2 steps forward and 1 step back. Sometimes it will be 2 steps forward and 3 steps back. But you will get better even when you know you're not. You'll go from having good hours to having good days, then several good days, then your first good week, etc. I promise this will happen! You don't have to believe me right now, either.

Also, when I was looking through your profile to find the threads you've created, I noticed that you registered here early the morning after Christmas. I'm so sorry your BD was right in the midst of the holidays. My holidays were not that great and that was 6+ months after my BD! Sending prayers and positive thoughts your way right now, Marylov