You are competly right I have no clue what to say on this boundary now tonight she hasn't said anything about the OM. She hasn't been home much with finally helping with the kids, she offered to take one to dance. She hasn't said much to me though. She took her to dance and then went and tanned. The kids were n bed before she got home. I'm just really not sure what I new to do. Now I do have blind determination to make this marriage work out. Is there anyway I can get her to see what she is doing to the kids and to our marriage?