First of all. Yes, if she confirms she wants you to come see her, then go. But play it cool and DB. All the way.

Ok. Now that I've said that.

I am so sorry to do this. But I am going to be the wet blanket here.

I'm worried about the "take care of her" statement.

I'm worried about the "pressure" statement that she made.

So, aside from the initial excitement that she may be coming home, what then? Because from what I hear, piecing is a real tough thing to do, and Tim, I'm not so convinced that she's coming home because she loves you and WANs to be with you so much as she wants to be taken care of and go back to something familiar because she was floundering out in the real world.

And then there's the OM thing.

Don't get me wrong, I think it's great to see what may happen because you never want to live with "what ifs" BUT, I (and the rest of us here) don't want to see you wet noodle once she gets home and you guys not work on the issues at hand.

Zero expectations, even when/if she comes home.

Because the real work will just be starting.

Keep us updated, and believe it or not - I am
Happy for you. :-)


M:32,H 32
T:10, M5
BD/H Move Out: 9/2014 - extreme anger
H Mental Illness Diagnosis: 4/15
Served D Papers: 10/15
Divorced: 11/15