Life 2.0 Pt 5

[Train]

She's even said that she's not so much in love with OM per se, but rather the idea.

Rzr, my H told me once he was home: "It's not that I loved OW; it's that I loved how she made me feel about MYSELF."

I'm finding that KEY as we maneuver our way through this crooked, bumpy, wildly-dangerous road of "piecing". I even went back through the texts I had screenshot to find out what she was saying to him, and what she was sending to him, to realize what it was, exactly, that she was "making him feel about himself" ( , right?).

This isn't a magic bullet. But maybe if you can figure out THAT little nugget, you can start adding it SUBTLY to your every-day interactions with W.

I say subtle, in your case, because your W seems to be the kind of woman that likes to be in control of things ... and the pace of things. If your efforts are "obvious" - even if they're noble and genuine and something that most women would lap-up - your W sounds like the type that will lash out just because there's a HINT that you're doing this awesome thing ON PURPOSE to "make her happy" or to "make her love you again."

I mean, how DARE you!



Again, she sounds awfully familiar to me (cough, cough, my sister). I often say about people like that: They'll hear a great idea from someone else, and they'll completely reject it. But if you make it seem like THEIR idea? Oh-Em-GEEEE!!!! It's so totally the BEST IDEA EVERRRRR!

... Am I gettin' warm?