I love how blunt you are and i thank you for it. I am trying to figure out how to do things. I do want to let her go but at the same time there is only two options that i see in letting go.
1) is just stop worrying about her, the sitch and just work on me. tell her i cannot lift the NC and just let her make her decisions from there.
2) I can file myself and then she is free to do what she pleases with whomever she wants.
I want to do #1 because i do not want to give up but i do want to let go, i guess i just worry about her holding resentment for my actions regarding the NC, because i did start the process and now no one but his command has control of that sitch. I also interpreted that email as (if the NC is not lifted she is going to believe that i forced her into no other option other than her filing for D.) and i guess that is what worries me because i just dont want to be resented. i do not want to manipulate her or the sitch, i just dont want things to be come malicious.
were you able to read the draft i wrote that i was thinkin of send to W.
as far as my 180's I really don't have many because we are not really on speaking terms. but one for sure is, when we have had conversations I began to validate and just listen to her feelings instead of trying to express myself.
I stopped checking her emails, texts everything not sure that is a 180.
I began cleaning the entire house without anyhelp.
i always lower to toilet seat as well now that is for sure a 180!
but after that i am kinda confused because we do not live together, rarely ever speak or see one another. How am i suppose to 180 in this situation. I know i can GAL but how do you 180 in that situation?
My short term goals are. -completing my pre-nursing degree. -learn how to hanglide. -run my two miles in 1250
if you mean goals for our relationship. - i want one conversation to end on a positive note. - i would like to be civil to one another. - begin to understand W's feelings and what she is going through. I did read the long post about WAW begining miss things, and i know that it will happen, i just have to do as you and Starsky said give it over to fate and GOD.
