The END Hopefully they live happily ever after....

[DFE]

I need advice. My STBX has tried the entire time we have been separated to be "friends". We had a huge blowup over the weekend because he thought I was being cold to him and I obviously didn't want to be friends. I proceeded to tell him that I don't know if he deserves my friendship right now. I don't give away my friendship easily and that his treatment of me the last few years makes me rethink if I can be friends with him.

I didn't stop there. I told him that I couldn't be friends with someone who had abandoned his family and that he is expecting and that I reached out to him throughout our marriage to be my friends but he ignored me. He shut the door in my face. How can he now expect me to be his friend when he has made it clear to me he hates me.

Now he is giving me the silent treatment. Although I want no contact from him we still work together. Or he works for me now I should say. I expect him to remain professional and respond to my work related emails. We are also co-parenting and we need to communicate minimally about the kids. I feel all of our relationship has been on his terms and it continues to be how he wants it.

I now have anxiety because I feel that maybe by saying what I said he is going to make things difficult on me. I feel he wants to be my friend to relieve himself of some of the guilt he may have and I am not participating in it. I am not emotionally in a place where I can have regular contact with him. To me it seems he wants to be cake eating and I don't want any part of it. Am I wrong? I need someone else's perspective. All of my friends think that the lines are still blurred for him and that he doesn't full understand the decision he has made. He can't come and go when it's convenient for him. He can't keep my friendship and some family dinners but throw the rest of our relationship out the door. Advice, thoughts, suggestions are all appreciate. You all always help me think clearly.