Hello everyone, Just finished the book..I'm the low desire person. I'd like to try some of the ideas in there, but I am not sure where to start. I'm on my 2nd marriage, so far 6 years. I have 4 kids, ages 12-2, all home with me because we home school. I work one or two pm shifts outside the home, and take midnight call at work on a regular basis. (Sometimes I get called in, sometimes not, more often yes than not!) I have a business from my home, and also do the cooking, cleaning, shopping, bills, taxes and other etc that goes with running a home. Our house is an older one we are trying to fix up, so I coordinate the supplies, workers, odd jobs and etc with that. Because of that, too, we are often broke.
Hubby works day shift, gone from 7a to 6p, comes home and falls asleep in front of the tv. To be fair, he washes the supper dishes and does his own laundry. He will read to the kids on occasion. He doesn't feel loved without sex. His idea of "normal" is 2-3 times a week, but we have not had sex in a long time. His idea of good sex is making me orgasm every time. When I don't, or ask him to stop because I'm becoming sore, he sees it as a failure on his part. He's a poor lover in his eyes, and wants to try even harder the next time to "get it right". He doesn't (or can't) seem to see all the things I do every day, doesn't notice the kids hanging on me 24-7, and can't understand why I've got no interest in sex. He tries to turn every attempt from me to physically connect (like a kiss, or hug, or snuggle) into a sexual invitation. I'm afraid to approach him for any physical need anymore, because he'll want sex and then make a big rejection scene when I don't want it also.
Sorry this is so long, and I'm sure it's the same old song from many folks...I really want to make my husband happy, but quite frankly, I'm too tired! I don't know how to cram even one more responsibility into my days, and am not sure I want to! But now, somehow, I must because my hub thinks I'm having an affair because I'm working so much and won't have sex. I'd spread for him if it was that easy, but my luck, I'd end up pregnant...(oh, by the way, birth control is my responsibility too).
thanks for listening...any ideas on where to start? Momx4
