This need not be the end.

[25yearsmlc]

Barry,

Unlike some, I don't think having people posting on other threads is useful IF the poster isn't in the right frame of mind and or is not familiar with the DB principles.

You'd be surprised how often an angry person comes on and vents or "transfers/projects" their situation onto others. It's incredibly Unhelpful. There is also a lot of misunderstanding or ignorance of DB tenets, so having those folks spread their misinformation is not helpful. I'm shocked at the number of posters who post here without even reading the books, let alone believing in them AND or who have not posted their own stories...it's sort of poor etiquette b/c they reveal nothing about themselves while telling others how to live.

And usually, not always but mostly, they are projecting their situations and biases onto others....counter to DB principles.

When I first posted here, I wanted to be declared "Right", and have h vilified for being the selfish MLCer that I believed him to be. I also continuously asked the useless unanswerable question of "WHY????"

I thank God that I got a wonderful DB coach and the people posting to ME at least, were DB believers. They almost totally changed my way of seeing things but geez, I took a LONG time to get there.

I spent/wasted the first year here, trying to figure out what was in h's mind/heart and truth be told, 1) HE probably did not know and

2) I should have focussed on ME/the kids/MY stuff, way more and faster. A lot faster.

Though I rarely got someone projecting onto me, I saw it a lot on other threads.

It's NOT a sign of you being self absorbed not to post, it's often a sign of humility. If you are in too much pain or have not absorbed or believe in the DB tenets, it's better that you Not post, imo.

But words of encouragement to others, just letting them know you care and they are in your thoughts and prayers, is always a kind thing to do.

Just my .02