Gosh V! That's all pretty offensive. Does H only go down these 'avenues' when he has been drinking? Even if he does, it's still pretty worrying as the drink may be just lowering any inhibitions about saying what he really feels.

V - you seem so accepting and tolerant of all kinds of people, that this must be pretty hard to hear - from anyone, but particularly your H.

I don't have that is useful to say - other than (((V)))

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus