Good week last week. Tried really hard to move on. Put away daily reminders of WAW. She was out of town so I had S4 with me all weekend too. She called from the airport to discuss pickup time. i told her a time. I shortly there after texted a fly/drive safe, it is raining here message with a pic of S4. She called when she got home. Again to see what time she could pick up S4? Weird how she does not hear me. She arrived at pickup time. We both reached for the door (details)as S4 tried to fall into the doorway. Her hand, mine reached too. So, my hand on top of hers opening the door. She did not pull away? Anyhow. Got S4 into the car. S11 came down to help. Told S4 of a game he had asked me to call him mommy about later. She wanted to get a game for him on her ipad that S11 had and S4 played. However, since S11 talked about the game as I walked away, I turned to make sure she saw me wave. I went inside. She called me that evening and said she doid not recieve a text from me about the game. I told her S11 talked to them about it and there was nothing else I knew so I did not text. She then put me on speaker for S4. He said"I miss you daddy." Sad voice. I paused...... I told him I missed him too. She then got back on the phone. She tells me she has no internet or homephone...wire cut by workers while she was out of town. Me thinking...WOW...so why ask me all that stuff about a game she cannot download??? The next evening she calls to tell me about soccer for S4. She goes back out of town next week so I get s4 (due to her trip and how the schedule worked out) 7 days She tells me every single detail about where practice is, what he needs to have on, etc. I have the paper she gave me with all the same stuff on it, but I let her talk. Before she got off the phone, I told her thanks for letting me know (weird). I remembered I am supposed to be nicer, so I asked about her trip. She sounded excited I asked and went back into blabbing. ( I feel she is missing our connection and co-parenting is not easily done when you live apart) Who knows)
All of that to say, I joined 3 sites to find a friend last week. Looking to go on some dates and get ready for summer. WAW has had the last of my mental tug of war efforts to stay "around". I am looking ahead, but keeping the door cracked. Without hopes or what -if's. Ball is in her court, I have no control and can only be me, the person she fell so hard for....the one who has only changed for the better. joining the sites, not to transfer my affections onto someone that used to be hers, but for me to continue healing in a healthy way and move on.
Me43/WAW43..M 4y..S1 11/S2 4..Bomb2/2014..Dfile 5/2014..Settlement signed 8/20/14..D final 8/29/14 I moved out 10/10/14..WAW got D she wanted. I wanted R. No waiting,just no boundaries in her way.