Starsky's right. I hate to say it, but some women do not have what it takes to support the man while he goes through school. Most women will eventually lose respect and attraction for a nonworking man who is not going through any higher level of education or training to better their lives. It's hard when the M is healthy!
You had two strikes, maybe three, going against you right off the bat. You depended on her to get to this country, it even hinted of a M of convenience, and you depended on her to support you. That is not good when there are problems in the M. For some women, it feels like something is out of order.......know what I mean? Like you should be doing more to help with the supporting, and she should be able to be more dependent on you. Old traditions die hard for some. And speaking as one from the female gender, I think that will be a hard one to go quietly.
I have to admit, when you first came here, I really thought you were more concerned about your green card and saw her as your meal ticket. As I recall, you really didn't seem that worried about the MR while you were still on vacation.
Starsky is so right about making proclamations. They carry no weight with her. All she will do is look at your actions. How many times have you laid around the house or went to the beach or were bored with nothing to do? Those are the things she's watching.
Excuses don't work, either.
I've read other posts where you gave pretty good advice. Now, you need to learn from it.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
