I know that feeling all too well. That is why I said the MC hasn't gotten her attention yet. She is wanting to experience the same feelings she had in the A. She has to get one man out of her system before she can have feelings for the other one.
She is still operating out of emotions. And although I am very sympathetic, she is also using it as a cop out. It is hard to do like MWD says and do the action first and let feelings follow later. I'm sure that is very painful for you, too, knowing she feels nothing. Both of you are suffering. She is craving passion and attraction, but she feels none for her H, so she compares that with how she feels or felt toward OM. Could be what she wants to "clarify" when he returns, to see if she still feels the spark.
You hit the nail on the head. I said in MC that I felt like I was competing with OM. Not directly, as in she's choosing between us, but with what she thought she had with him. She's even said that she's not so much in love with OM per se, but rather the idea.
I've told her point blank (not that it means much coming from me) that her feelings for OM, whatever they may be, are blocking her from reconnecting with me.
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
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