W still having affair with OP #2

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Consequences that aren't spiteful, hmmm. Just think about what you would do differently if she left for good yesterday. That is what the consequences are. Basically, she has already left mentally and emotionally. Sounds like you are trying to avoid the ensuing conflict because she will spew when she is out of her comfort zone. She's too comfortable with the way things are and I doubt she will move much unless she becomes uncomfortable in some way (cake eating). Like when she has to pay her own way for the lifestyle she is having. That will be uncomfortable. You not being available all the time to take care of things at home or watch your D so she can go out will cramp W's lifestyle, etc. But if she is on her own she would have to do all that.