I could be wrong because I only check in here sporadically, but I think you guys are spending wayyyyyy too much time focusing on/discussing the A and your "problems." In doing so, you're pretty much holding a mirror up to your problems 24/7. I know it's mostly your W's hang-up, but you don't seem to be helping matters by not being solution-oriented and trying to come up with SOMETHING that poses a solution to the recurring problem.
Try the date nights I've harped about. Plan something fun ... something that will make you both laugh. Something that either PREVENTS you from talking ... or you both agree that the dates will be "A-free" nights. No talking about the A or your relationship.
Do you have a comedy club nearby?
No, that's exactly it. We spend too much time talking about our problems. The A in and of itself has faded as a topic of discussion, but it's getting to the point where it's all about her and how she feels, which is disconnected. I suggest doing things, and her stock response is "how will that help?" "I just don't feel it!" She's convinced that in order for us to reconnect some mysterious "thing" will have to just happen spontaneously and she'll "feel it" again.
I think what I'm going to need to do is just plan something on my own and just tell her to be ready. Unfortunately we don't have a comedy club nearby, but there's got to be something we can do. Keeping it light and fun w/o romantic pressure is vital right now
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Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
