I hope you keep posting, because I think you are at a critical point to help encourage change in your sitch. The reason I believe you need to start setting boundaries, is to gain your W's respect. She doesn't respect you right now.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa