Thank you for the anniversary wishes (a day early!). It's still worth remembering, I guess. We created a wonderful family, 4 amazing children that make the world a better place. Happy Anniversary to you, for tomorrow.......
Each time, I want to drop the rope, to let go, he does something like this, it always seems like he is cake eating, making sure to be sufficiently nice to me to ensure that I will be still be there for him if he wants. But not too nice, no kisses at the end of the message. I feel like a fool sometimes for even bothering to respond to him - it seems like I am meeting his needs just by being here - I don't want to meet any of his needs, the OW(s) can do that.
I was ready to ignore our wedding anniversary for the first time ever and was sure he would, I was ready to ignore valentines day for the first time ever and was sure he would. I am moving forward and leaving him behind to figure himself out, I really hope he does but I have accepted that I cannot help him.
I always come back to my original question, the title of my thread - do I tell him all I know? He doesn't know that I know about his online dating, his return to the original OW, the rest of the OWs and his attempts to make sure that anyone who knows what he is doing keeps it from me. Because he doesn't know what I know he can pretend, can continue to live his half life in each world, being just nice enough to me.
