Honestly Shining - they haven't got a reason, and so they have to invent one that appears vaguely credible to them (and it is interesting that they change the reason perdiocially)
Well spotted on the stew comment - we leak meaning in ways we do not intend!!
And as for dating - so many people leap into a validating relationship (understandably - we have been pretty rudely rejected), and risk another cycle of emotional abuse and rejection.
Being alone and liking it is so important to our personal development - and yet we are judged (even here to some extent) by our relationship status. I swear I will scream at the next person who says 'Oh you will meet someone' as if that was what really mattered in life. OK end of rant for the day!
