that is how i have been approached since finding out about the EA/PA and how i reacted. instead of stepping back and letting her just do what she wanted to find her "clarity". i reacted the only way i knew how at the time. snooping, arguing all the script things the betrayed spouse does. her all the while saying these things im doing ar selfish and she just needs space and time to think. and then when i sent the info the Air force and they pressed the NC on OM then everything was without a doubt my fault, "i was doing everything for myself and being selfish." she had even gone so far as to say that i am happy to see where she is at and that she is depressed and unhappy. I dont understand how someone can change so fast and also how they continue not to see they are the ones that are selfish. but anyhow i agree complex i read all those subtle hints about the NC. and then how she went to so far as to say, I can come and go and do what i want with who i want and that she lets me. and that she just wants the same thing....! i almost spit up my water, all i could see as her trying to justify what she wants. kinda like i have fired you as my hubby, i dont care what you do or who you do it with, SO you should not care what i am doing or who i am doing it with. that is how i inferred that statement. gonna let this one sit for a little but i do feel like i have to at least respond sooner or later, with something simple short and to the point!
