Wife during deployment EA/PA ongoing #4

[Complex]

Simple but brilliant analogy regarding the psych of a cheater reasoning himself out of the responsibilty by pointing out the flaws in us that they knew long before, but didn't care about them as long as they were in love with us...

Imagine you go buy a car. It has a visible dent. You're like, I want this car, it's awesome. The dealers says, yes it is but it has a big dent right there, other than that it works just fine. You really want it with this dent?
Oh yes, I don't care. I love this car. I don't care about the dent. Ok sign here...
50.000 miles later: oh my god, this car has a dent, wtf. I'll bring it back, this is ridiculous. You go back and want to return it bc of the dent.
Car dealer be like....???????!?!?!?!?!? Wtf is wrong with you? It's been 50k miles, I told you it has a dent when you bought it, it's still the same one...you even signed it....

Little out of context but it's an analogy that really simplifies the emotions in a funny way.