Masterpiece still in progress...

[Jer2911]

Okay -- I want to reply to everyone's posts so far... But before I do... WOW -- there is a whole new version of Monster at home this evening... this one seems to be breathing fire...

I was ready for her to demand that I leave the master bedroom tonight, but for some reason that didn't happen... I would have fought her on it, but I still think that fight is coming at some point. I know she's pissed about having to sleep on the couch, but this was all her choice -- I never kicked her out of the bedroom.

There is a lot contributing to the new monster that is surfacing... one part has to do with what happened between her and another family member today, one part has to do with the emails that went back and forth between us, and another has to do with the co-parenting agreement and point about child support... I have never seen my W acting or looking like this around me.

Don't worry -- I don't think I'm in physical danger -- but W is definitely spinning and in a VERY fowl mood.

So Cali -- yeah, emails can be problematic, but in the past they've actually worked fairly well for us because we both have time to read, think/process, and give thoughtful replies...

But -- they can be problematic at times like this... As Wonka pointed out -- they can contain too much info for the MLCer...

And I think that might be part of the problem in this case... BUT -- she started it with a long email yesterday... I just replied to each of her points... and then she replied to my points and then I replied to her points... And now she's walking around the house not looking me in the eye, barely speaking to me, and slamming doors every chance she gets -- especially the master bedroom door...

Jack -- oh boy... Yeah -- I think she's ticked off about the child support thing. I don't know if she looked into that any further after replying to me about it, but I haven't said anything else to her... Still waiting for a reply back from my lawyer about it. But, again, she's main breadwinner AND this was all her decision... And, if she is telling the truth and what she is currently saying is NOT a bunch of MLC spew/script, then what she told me today about realizing she didn't really love me when she was pregnant with our first (8 years ago!) means that she and I had three kids together with her knowing/thinking she didn't really love me and wouldn't spend the rest of her life with me... What does she expect? That I'm just going to magically have the money I need to match her in terms of what she can provide for the kids? Oh -- and in the discussions so far she's expressed a desire for us to split all of the kid expenses 50/50... So without CS my % of expenses on the kids will be a much larger % of my take-home pay than hers will ever be...

I know this is MLC and what she said to me today in the emails is NOT TRUE... But if it is... If I've read all of this completely wrong and she isn't an MLCer, then I've lived nearly 10 years with someone who has lied to me continuously, is not who I thought she was, and who has been content up until now to live a complete lie to all of our family and friends... Wow, wow, wow...