Your M can be saved. However, it will take major work on your part, and no expectations on his part. If you can't do that, then you need to accept it. I am saying this based on why you didn't think it was asking too much of him when talking about the dating issue after S.
If he wants to leave the M, and is depressed, too..........then having expectations from him would set yourself up for big disappointment. Sorry for being so harsh, I am trying to tell you from my own personal experience of being the depressed WAS. He doesn't have the energy or desire to work on a relationship. If you press him, he'll bail. Now if he has good working medication, plus time, it could help him with the depression. I don't know how well it may work on his desire for the MR.
Knowing this, what will you decide?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
