Jer truth is she isn't going to be happy with you.
You hit her with a financial reality and that is the breadwinner is almost always going to have to cough up childcare.
She can be as sweet as peaches as long as things go her way, and its no skin off her nose to be pleasant when things ARE going her way.
But right now, now that lawyers are going to be involved, now that she is starting to see that this is not going to be as easy, clean or financially light as she hoped?
You will see the monster as you call her.
And you know what?
No LBS here is the white knight that comes in and slays the MLC monster...we are the white knight in the face of that monster though. We have to protect ourselves, we defend our lives and livelihoods. We do not sacrifice ourselves on the MLC altar, hoping they notice and change their ways. Martyrdom does not work here.
There is an old saying, Use your anger as your shield NOT your sword. I know its old cause I am old.
Use it to remain firm and fair in this. Not vindictive. Use it to power you along and not fall for sweet words and false niceties.
In the face of her storm, be the lighthouse. In the face of her monster be the knight.
Be calm, be strong, and show it and one day, hopefully, maybe she will recall and thank you for how YOU acted in the face of her crazy.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
