I wish I could give you an accurate impression of the snotty hauteur with which he replied "They spend their time protecting people and saving lives, I hardly think they will give that much thought to what happens with your job". And that was generally his attitude.
Actually, I can visualize that. I was married to someone who pulled (and occasionally still does) that crap with me too. I truly believe in the pit of my heart that it's their insecurity that takes the stage and it comes off as pompous as hell and doesn't exactly emit the happy vibes it was supposed to send? My XH is a rocket scientist. LOL, for real. He got his EE degree in 3 years and while he's one of the socializing nerds who has good social skills, he occasionally treats me as though I got a degree in basket weaving from the community college. Hello. I, too, have a BS in biology (premed kind) and a minor in math (not that I could even think about that today); and I've completed half my coursework for an MBA in Accounting. I used to get uber pissed off at this as well, Raliced, and I think it colored my interactions with him as well. Perhaps a bit of self preservation and unwillingness to put myself out there on the chopping block for ridicule? I know it affected my willingness to be vulnerable. But given my history in taking charge and wanting my opinions and values to matter, I'm pretty sure I knocked his masculinity around some.
So maybe it's the chicken and the egg after all?
And to sum it up, it sounds as though he felt insecure for his own reasons and wound up lashing out at you because he felt that way? AND BTW, the cop cheating thing? I know a cheater is a cheater, but I can call this brand of cheating a prop. They like the thrill of the chase. It's not the person. It's the speed in their car. Once the bimbos aren't perps, they're gone. Just my observation...
Keep up the good work. You really are doing a fabulous job of pushing forward. You have a life that matters and kids that think you rock. Some days, that's more than enough!
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
