Complex, I am going through this right now and I finally decided I need to back off and not talk to father-in-law as much. I know it puts him in a tough situation and it hurts him as well cause he loves his daughter but knows she is wrong. What is a dad to do. I hope you continue to grow you sound like you are beginning to understand yourself, be careful will letting your feelings go too much it can lead to setbacks in my experience.
