Good point Mozza, I think she was maybe feeling that way last night as she began weighing her options. I don't want her to feel stuck. I want her to want to be with me. I think I may have been stuck in my thinking and I need to focus on acceptance at this point and make my life mine again, truly. I am so focused on caring for my kids, it's just what I do while she's been out gallivanting. I feel like I'm abandoning them if I'm not there every waking moment. I need to stop that right now!
I guess I'm still learning detachment.
Yes, you are still learning. And what we tell you is either for your good, the overall good for the M, or what has to happen for her to come back.
The best thing you can do, and it's vital right now, is detach. Yes, way too much talking last night!! Don't even go there today, b/c it will wear you down until you have no clarity about anything.
The only way your M will really succeed is if she realizes you are the man she loves. If she stays within the home for any other reason, you both will be miserable.
Onward soldier!
When you say you need to focus on acceptance, what are you referring to exactly? Saving the M? Guess I didn't penetrate that mindset of yours. If it will help you let go, then I agree. Until you let her go, you won't have her.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
